“Do you find being the only female member challenging at all? Or do you find it more empowering?
To start, my bandmates and my producer are the most supportive, progressive, feminist men ever. They are so awesome so it is not hard to be a girl in this band. But it is hard to be a girl in this industry.
I’m in an interesting position because I am in charge of the band overall but I think my biggest challenge is a confidence gap. I am not as sure of myself as they are of themselves. I don’t know if that’s a female thing, but it might be. It took me a long time to say “I don’t want that,” or “I don’t like that,” or “that’s not my idea” or “it’s changed too much.” It’d take me all this courage to build up and they’d always be like “okay sure whatever you want!” Then I think I should have just said that from the get-go.
I’m in this group called Toronto’s Women in Music with a bunch of my lady friends and we talk about this a lot. We started sitting down last summer and the same thing came up; this nervousness or this level of emotion and uncertainty that we found with the men in our musical lives – even though those men, for the most part, and definitely in my experience, don’t intend for that to be there at all. They aren’t aware that it’s there.”